Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband (1 Cor 7:3)~~ Marriage does not give the man the right of being a bully, or a brute, one who demands his rights as the head of the house with never a “Thank you.” Nor does it give the wife the right to spend a lifetime trying to straighten out her husband, and to mold him into the image of her own idealism.
The foundation for the family and for the home is the husband’s love, for without his mental attitude of love, he can expect no response from his wife. When a man invests nothing in his marriage, he will receive nothing in return. The woman only becomes complex when she has nothing to respond to. Some men want their wife to assume what seems to be more of the role of a mother to them, to give catering and attention to them as a mother would. So, instead of the man giving, he demands this provision. A woman wants to look with respect toward her husband. She does not want to look at him as just another child to rear and handle. This type of a man has not grown up and thinks only of what he can get, not what he can give. Part of the husband’s obligation and his responsibility as a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ is to cover and to please his wife and to MAKE his marriage a success. That means GIVING into it!
A husband must so love his wife, as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself for it. The basis is giving. Yes, GIVING is of the utmost importance in every facet of the marriage bond. The Bible says “For God so loved the world, He GAVE His only begotten Son… (John 3:16)… Yes, He loves so much that He just gave!! And just like He doesn’t force or demand that we do anything, we can’t worry about the level of what the other person does in the relationship. God didn’t say do these things if or as long as the other person does those things, He just said DO them and HE would handle the rest. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not (Gal 6:9); And so, after he had patiently endured, he obtained the promise (Heb 6:15).
God will take care of it all in HIS due time…we just need to DO what we are supposed to do, regardless of the ‘stuff’ around us that is making us want to just want to quit. That’s DUE Benevolence… You OWE that to your spouse, your marriage, your Family… And you made a vow to give it. It’s not a burden to give into your marriage, you should be pleased to do it! So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a CHEERFUL giver (2 Cor 9:7) (It’s not just about money) Give what YOU’RE supposed to give in the marriage – do it with pleasure – and have faith in Him for the rest…that’s all God wants you to do.