And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Gen 2:21-24)
For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh (Eph 5:30-31) ~~ Marriage Is one big journey from selfishness to selflessness. As God gave up everything He had in His son Jesus; A husband in God’s will for marriage will give up everything he is and everything he has in order to make sure his wife has what she needs and his marriage is sustainable. No matter how big the sacrifice, meeting her needs becomes his priority. When a wife is dealing with a troubling situation the husband should be willing to be the bad guy. He’ll get as dirty as he has to in order to keep her clean. Helping her character remain clean is important, and the best way to do this is by learning and living according to the Bible. Ephesians 5 calls husbands to “present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle.” Men, Our charge is not to dog our wives, or point out their shortcomings, but to do all we can to reveal the true beauty we see inside her. Yes, the “church” has some issues, but Christ sees something different. Just the same if our wives have some issues, we are to see and reveal her beauty, not ridicule or punish her for her issues or expose her negatively. We are to nourish and protect her integrity; be compassionate and patient through her pains and stresses; and be supportive and a partner through her trials! Most people treat themselves better than they treat others. We make exceptions and excuses for the same mistakes we condemn in other people. But with our wives, we should love and treat her the same way we do ourselves. Husbands should treat their wives with the utmost care and concern. One of our biggest roles as a husband is to become one with our wife. The Bible actually says “one flesh.” That means to become closer to her than anybody or anything else on this earth. Even if it means separating from other people (yes, even our blood families!!) or ways of life or other things that come against your union. Once you become one, nothing can keep you apart.