Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers ‘with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth (Prov 5:15-18)~~ The only real promise of infidelity is that most of those marriages end in divorce. In the blink of an eye, the trust and security that was the foundation for a healthy marriage is destroyed. Sadly, it takes years of dedicated work to rebuild lost trust and security ripped away by an affair.. IF it even happens at all! The reason is simple. After an ice storm, have you ever attempted to walk down a frozen sidewalk? Although it’s possible, there’s always anxiety that a horrible fall might be right around the corner. What many couples fail to realize is that an absence of trust and security in a marriage is like condemning a person to live on that ice-covered sidewalk. Your mate is never truly free to relax because he or she is continually fighting to keep his or her footing.
Lawful marriage is a means God has appointed to keep from these destructive vices. But we are not properly united, except as we attend to God’s word, seeking his direction and blessing, and acting with affection. If people put as much attention into their OWN marriage as they give to outside entities activities and people, imagine how low the divorce rate would be! Instead of looking at how green the grass APPEARS to be on the other side, try watering your own grass! It’s amazing how well a marriage flourishes when we nurture it!!! It’s been said how awesome it is to marry the one you love.. (Well, who else would you marry???)– but even more awesome it is…when you LOVE THE ONE YOU MARRIED! There’s nothing worse in a marriage than that person that claims unhappiness in the marriage but then looks outside the marriage for satisfaction!
Look it’s just that simple! Marriage is that protected fenced in backyard! NO ONE should be allowed to walk in inside it other than the two of you that are part of it…and God Himself; not the kids, not mama or daddy or your siblings or your buddies or your girlfriends! FORSAKING ALL OTHERS means just that! This is your beautiful, blessed and sacred space – Your dream yard and the curb appeal you show the world should be a reflection of God’s purpose and blessing upon you! Water the grass and tend to it meticulously! When there are issues – deal with them IN THAT SPACE. When there is joy – celebrate IN THAT SPACE. When there is tribulation – grieve and rebuild IN THAT SPACE. Your marriage should be your place of solitude and your ultimate destination to get away from the world. Treat it right and your marriage will be something you’ll always look forward to coming home to!
(Scene in a Courtroom divorce proceeding after a husband’s name showed up on the Ashley Madison list): “Why are you asking for a divorce?” the judge inquired. “Because all my husband wants is to make love,” the woman said. “Most women would be pleased!” said the judge. “They are!!” the woman fired back. “That’s why I want a divorce!!!” – – –