Do not hastily bring into court, for what will you do in the end, when your neighbor puts you to shame? Argue your case with your neighbor himself, and do not reveal another’s secret, lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your ill repute have no end (Prov 25:8-10)~ Isn’t it interesting that the person that loves to ‘throw shade’ or ‘call people out’ ends up being the one getting the “side-eye” from everyone else as the truly shameful person? What good does it really do to go after a person and publicly humiliate them for some offense? Your efforts to make them look bad are actually casting a negative shadow on you! Why create all that drama?? All it does is fuel the fire even though in the moment it seems to feel vindicating. Conflict and strife are parts of life in a sinful world. They evoke strong passions, which cause us to rush to action. Some of us pride ourselves in being direct or outspoken or passionate. But a passionate response is usually a poor response. It is better to let passions cool before taking any action. The mind is usually not fully engaged, when the heart is pounding and the emotions are raging. Cool off first, before you say anything, do anything or even plan anything. Otherwise, unless you are very careful, small conflicts will escalate quickly into much larger trials. Kings go to battle slowly. Jesus said, “Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? Or else, while the other is yet a great way off, he sendeth an ambassage, and desireth conditions of peace” (Luke 14:31-32). Let this all be a lesson to us: If you have ever slept on a conflict, with a mind toward fearing God and loving wisdom, you woke in the morning with a very different perspective than what you went to bed with. This is wisdom. By allowing some time to pass, your passions cooled, your mind had time to clear foolish emotions, and the Holy Spirit could direct you. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord (Rom 12:19). Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God (James 1:19-20).