It happened after this that Nahash the king of the people of Ammon died, and his son reigned in his place. Then David said, “I will show kindness to Hanun the son of Nahash, because his father showed kindness to me.” So David sent messengers to comfort him concerning his father. And David’s servants came to Hanun in the land of the people of Ammon to comfort him. And the princes of the people of Ammon said to Hanun, “Do you think that David really honors your father because he has sent comforters to you? Did his servants not come to you to search and to overthrow and to spy out the land?” (1 Chr 19:1-3)
King David, blessed of God and secure in his position, was genuinely kind to Hanun, King of Ammon. His kindness was to repay acts of kindness Hanun’s father had previously paid to David. Hanun’s advisors, however, had a pessimistic outlook that destroyed the potential of the relationship. They were quick to assume the worst about David and his actions. The lack of trust with Hanun’s advisors led to war that caused them to run in defeat.
Pessimists often fail to see the true heart and intent of genuinely kind and helpful people. Perhaps because they have been “burned” before, or because of hidden hurts or because of their own conjured-up fears, pessimists are prone to bite the hand that feeds them. Pessimists always look for the negative part of a situation. They are always challenged with acceptance of kindhearted intent. Sadly, because they are so quick to judge the motive, they are also slow to trust even their own heart! They look for the land-mine in every act of kindness and every opportunity that is in front of them. In this the pessimist often drives themselves to constant worry; living in fear and blocking their own blessings because the wall of protection they put up, while it surely protects them from the bad things life, it is so rigid and built with distrust that even the blessings of God are intercepted in doubt! Many will claim greatness in that wall they’ve put up because they’ve probably saved themselves from the pain and humiliation that comes from that which is less than noble. I’ve known so many people that believe so strongly in God but walk in such unbelief that something good could happen to them…and because of their own ‘wall’ they’ve put up and expressed such pride in, they’ve missed on many things and literally blocked their own blessing! The loss of the blessing, the aid and comfort from those who are not enemies, those who have a pure heart and humble intentions, outweighs the gain of their pessimism!
Hence my friend, PRAY! Ask the Spirit of God to give you a trusting heart and a discerning spirit. Ask Him to give you a tender disposition but with a POSITIVE profile. In doing so, you will have to trust what God does because He’s going to require you to have some faith in Him for what you prayed for. Rather than seeking the land-mine in the opportunity – whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in God — meditate on those things, and the wall of protection that God puts around you will keep you from hurtful things while still bringing His blessings of joy and peace to you. Your blessings will not be blocked – because God will be honored! When you trust Him in all things, HIS wall of protection will keep you in great security from hurt while overwhelming you in a level of blessings you (in your pessimistic mind) could not imagine!