Does your husband or wife “deserve” your love? Have they “earned” your trust? Do your children “deserve” your goodness? Have they “earned” your generosity? Does that person, family or friend “deserve” your forgiveness? Have they “earned” respect?
As you think about those “ungrateful” people that are coming to mind in your life, consider this:
Do you “deserve” God’s mercy? Have you “earned” His forgiveness and salvation? Are you worthy of the sufferings of Jesus?
What if God blessed us based on what we deserved or earned?
To deserve and earn something means we execute actions that make us worthy of the gifts of the giver. BUT HE GIVES US MORE GRACE (James 4:6). Generosity, Love, and Grace are not things that are given because they are deserved or earned. They are given because of the nature of the giver, not the nature of the receiver. Generosity is an expression of the love in your heart directed toward others, regardless of how they respond. See, God loves on us, not because of what we do, but because of who HE is! This is something just to ponder and allow God to use in your life. He desires to conform us to His image. He’s generous. Allow Him to work that into your nature as well, regardless of how “deserving” people are or whether or not they are willing to respond in kind.
Why is this important? Well, consider the following:
“Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.” (Luke 6:37-38) — in other words, what you give will return to you; even multiplied back to you! The bloom is always a multiplied representation of the seed! So is your blessing multiplied over what you have given!
Are those points about marriage, friendship, families, work? I don’t see how we can not apply them to ANY form of relationship! Those who are generous will receive generously, and those who are stingy will receive scarcely!
My friend, God wants to see us in His image – That desire from Him is shown in many places in The Bible: …Be ye holy for I am holy (1 Peter 1: 16); A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another (John 13:34); Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful (Luke 6:36).
Remember, Grace: it’s not about the one being given to, but the one that gives! And God always gives to us greater than we deserve!