I have been in many careers, had many friends and met many people in my lifetime. There are always guys out there that are fine just being in this or that career, having this or that thing or doing things this or that way. They get to a point in their lives, make a little money, get the house, the car and the stuff and they’re…good! They’ve reached their goals in life and now there is no ambition for more. But as Fathers, we can’t let success make us complacent! Just being our children’s “daddy” isn’t enough… just providing financially for them and putting a roof over their head, clothes on their back and food on the table…nope…not enough!!! No, we haven’t arrived. We always room for improvement. We must always be aware of the need to give our best; day in and day out. Complacency has a way of working its way into our lives like a disease keeping us from reaching our true potential as Fathers. It causes us to lose focus and fail. Are you complacent just being the man of the house and “dad” or do you want to be the best man in their lives and the best dad for your kids?
It takes focus and maximum effort every day. You need something to focus towards. Make sure the goal is achievable and measurable. In fatherhood, it may just be putting your phone away when you come home so you can spend time with your kids without distractions. You may set a goal of reading to your kids a certain number of times a week or making a list of things to do together each month. Whatever you want to be, set goals to get there and follow-through on them. You’re a professional when it comes to the work schedule, schedule some time in there to be with your kids! Every minute that passes doing something trivial is lost opportunity to mold and shape our kids lives! Protect that time. Make the most of it. Follow through on your goals by outlining the activities that will get you there. There are days when we feel tired, frustrated, and discouraged. Don’t let those days take you out of the game. Practice the daily activities that will achieve your vision as a dad. Pray, play, and talk with your kids every day if you can. The people who are consistently active are the ones who realize goals.
Don’t just be happy to be a dad, simply complacent to hold the title – just being the daddy doesn’t make you a father! Attack each day with purpose. Bring your “A” game. Every day, try to learn something new that will make you a better FATHER. Study other Fathers you admire and work on those qualities. There is always room for improvement. We will never reach perfection, but we can work towards it.