Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does (John 5:19)~~ God is a father. God is THE Father. God has a Son, Jesus. God has many sons (Rom 8:15). I am one of those sons. Like THE Son, I should be doing what I see THE Father doing. I am also a father. As a father, I should be doing what I see THE Father doing. The state of fatherhood in today’s culture isn’t pretty, generally speaking. We’ve all heard the stats on fatherlessness, abuse, abandonment, etc. As a result of this, many of us carry father “wounds”. Then, we become fathers ourselves and feel inadequate for the job. In our angst, we either imitate what our earthly fathers did (even if we hated their example), or we completely react against our earthly fathers – vowing never to do in our own lives what they may have done in front of us. In either situation, our point of reference is our imperfect earthly father who has father wounds of his own. The words of Jesus though point us to a different point of reference. The first thing Jesus does is acknowledge His total dependence upon God. The second thing He does is acknowledge that God is worth emulating. These two things give us a new starting point for casting a vision for our own fatherhood. In our own journeys as fathers, we have to ask two very important questions: What do we see The Father doing and how can we do that? By approaching fatherhood this way, we no longer have to be limited or defined by the wounds or inadequacies of our earthly fathers. Even the most wounded man can still be a stellar father if he is seeking to do what he sees The Father doing. As fathers, we should see ourselves as a sort of earthly ambassador for The Father in the lives of our children. We must let them know that God loves them more fully and more perfectly than we ever can. Of course, they know that we love them beyond words, so they will know that God’s love must be incomprehensibly wonderful if He loves them more than we ever could. To realize that you are a window through which your children see The Father makes you wish that you didn’t have wounds and brokenness. The view through a broken window usually isn’t very clear. But take heart. We don’t have to be flawless in order for our children to see their true Father. All we have to do is follow Jesus’ example and do what we see The Father doing. As we cooperate with the Holy Spirit in this endeavor, our children will start to see The Father more and more clearly. So, what do we see The Father doing? As we read the Scriptures, we see The Father training, testing, disciplining, speaking, embracing, blessing, creating, redeeming, rebuking, and imparting wisdom. This is not an exhaustive list, just something to prime the pump and get us started. We as fathers must continue searching the Scriptures yourself in order to add to this list. As fathers, the more we endeavor to gain a clear vision of The Father, the more we will be able to cast a vision for our own fatherhood. No amount of imperfection in our own fathers or ourselves is too great to prevent the goodness of The Father from shining through to our children. Fathers, Don’t buy into the lie that you are too flawed or wounded for the job of fatherhood, no matter the source! On the contrary, you were MADE for it, and the best way to excel at it is to do what you see The Father doing. All we need is a vision of THE Father.