So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Eph 5:28-29)~~ The duty of husbands is to love their wives. The love of Christ to the church is an example, which is sincere, pure, and constant, notwithstanding her imperfect idiosyncracies. Of course there will be failures and defects on both sides of the marriage, in the present state of human nature, yet this does not alter the relation. In marriage it is ordained by God that the husband and wife are one… So much so that all things for or against one in the marriage are the same toward both; so much so that even for either party within to undermine that is to bring harm to oneself. All the benefits and duties of marriage are included in unity and love. We love because Christ first loved us and when we know that love, we can give that love. So if you want to love your spouse better, get to know the love in Christ in your own life. And while we adore and rejoice in the unwavering love of Christ, let husbands …and wives learn by this example, their duties of love to each other.