Fathers where are you?

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4)~ The duty of FATHERS: Be not impatient; use no unreasonable severities. Deal prudently and wisely with your children; convince their judgments and work upon their reason. Bring them up well; under proper and COMPASSIONATE correction; and in the knowledge of the duty God requires. Often is this duty neglected; as many men, through their own actions set their children against religion. But this does not excuse the children’s disobedience, in fact it may be awfully the cause of it. There’s a point in life where God will hold ‘each’ of us accountable for our lives – as a man and father – part of my accountability will come in how I was as a father to my children because that influence makes a difference in the lives they will live beyond me! God alone can change the heart, and He gives His blessing to the good lessons and examples of FATHERS, and answers their prayers. My prayer and main concern regarding my children is that they grow up knowing Him and that I may be the Earthly example of God’s love to my children! Train up a child in the way they should go..and when they are old they shall not depart from it! Father…are you doing what you’re supposed to do? Are you loving your children with a stern but compassionate heart? Are you correcting them in love and not ruling by fear and intimidation? Are they learning through you what it’s like to be loved by God? Much respect to the men out there that DO it like a FATHER should. 

The grass looks greener on the other side. When’s the last time you watered YOUR grass?

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers ‘with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth (Prov 5:15-18)~~ Why are you asking for a divorce?” the judge inquired. “Because all my husband wants is to make love,” the woman said. “Most women would be pleased!” said the judge. “They are!!” the woman fired back. “That’s why I want a divorce!!!” The only real promise of infidelity is that most of those marriages end in divorce. In the blink of an eye, the trust and security that was the foundation for a healthy marriage is destroyed. Sadly, it takes years of dedicated work to rebuild lost trust and security ripped away by an affair.. IF it even happens at all!  The reason is simple. After an ice storm, have you ever attempted to walk down a frozen sidewalk? Although it’s possible, there’s always anxiety that a horrible fall might be right around the corner. What many couples fail to realize is that an absence of trust and security in a marriage is like condemning a person to live on that ice-covered sidewalk. Your mate is never truly free to relax because he or she is continually fighting to keep his or her footing. Lawful marriage is a means God has appointed to keep from these destructive vices. But we are not properly united, except as we attend to God’s word, seeking his direction and blessing, and acting with affection. If people put as much attention into their OWN marriage as they give to outside entities activities and people, imagine how low the divorce rate would be! Instead of looking at how green the grass APPEARS to be on the other side, try watering your own grass! It’s amazing how well a marriage flourishes when we nurture it!!! It’s been said how awesome it is to marry the one you love.. (Well, who else would you marry???)– but even more awesome it is…when you love the one you married. #LoveIsAnAction

NOBODY “Deserves it” – Stop the Abuse!

The Lord tests the righteous, But the wicked and the one who loves violence His soul hates (Ps 11:5); Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them (Col 3:19)~~ Husbands, when you said “I do”, it wasn’t just saying you would take this woman….(you know the rest), but you vowed in the sight of God to be what He calls a husband to be. While we cannot be perfect in our own effort, in Him we achieve righteousness and upright standing. The woman whose hand you took – Consider she is your wife; your own; the nearest relation you have in the world. You forsook your mother and father as part of God’s plan to be joined into a single flesh according to God’s will. Your wife is to be looked on, not as a servant; not as a subject; not as a target of aggression or anger and certainly not as a burden of any kind, but as a help, love and companion. There is an oath of God between you, which is not to be trifled with. Man and wife should continue to their lives’ end, in holy love and peace. Submission is the duty of the wife. But it is submission, not to a severe Lord or stern tyrant, but to her own husband, who is engaged to AFFECTIONATE duty. And husbands must love their wives with tender and faithful affection!! It is NOT OK for one spouse to commit violence against the other. It’s something God hates. If you are doing this to your spouse, YOU ARE WRONG and if you can’t control yourself, then GET HELP. If this is being done to you by your spouse, then GET OUT! If you are a victim of abuse in your marriage, PLEASE don’t be fooled into thinking that you “deserve it” There is NO JUSTIFICATION WHATSOEVER that makes it okay to resort to violence of any kind or any physical and verbal abuse. God does not condone a marriage of abuse, or violence. The Bible says that he who loves his wife loves himself. There is no love in abuse – for each other or oneself.

When it comes to your marriage – Just Say “No”

Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Mark 10:9) ~~ We must guard our marriage, so that the outside world cannot separate it. We must protect its core – the love between husband and wife. This doesn’t come for free – it will cost us a lot – but “no” must be an integral part of our vocabulary. Saying no to others – whether to people, things, or tasks – is not easy. Sometimes it is hard work, causes anxiety, and may upset others. But in order to say yes to your marriage, you must be able to say no to other things. You simply do not have the time, resources, and energy to do everything you want and to please everyone around you. If you do not learn to say no to others, you will eventually find out that you have been saying no to your marriage all the time. Marriage involves more than keeping the love between you and your spouse alive. It also means forsaking, or leaving behind other things. Before marriage, we could take care of career, friends, sports, trips, and other activities. Marriage though means forsaking some freedoms in order to gain growth. Marriage is not an extension of singleness where you bring your spouse along. You can’t have both at the same time. If you don’t make forsaking a part of everyday life, you always run danger of adding the wrong thing (bad influences) to your marriage and subtracting the good (closeness and honesty) from it. Marriage is designed to be an exclusive club, a two-person arrangement that provides a safe place for each spouse’s soul. There is no space for a third party to receive an equal share in a marriage, because that can easily disrupt the safety of the relationship. With a third party present, our love gets divided. A part of our heart is taken away from our spouse, where it belongs, and brought to an outside source. Our spouse is our prime address for finding comfort, help, truth and growth. But marriage is not the only place for that. It was never designed to be the source for all life for us. That would be idolatry, because only God and His resources are our life source. Of course, we also need and should have close friends in whom we can confide and who confide in us. We should have activities and associations aside of our marriage, But if they drive us away from our spouse, we certainly step over the line. In the end we have to learn to avoid extremes and find the right balance. We need outside relationships and activities to get some of our needs met that our spouse simply cannot meet. But at the same time we have to make sure that these external influences do not intrude into our marriage and take a part of our heart away from our spouse. When it comes to your marriage – Just say No!

Give what you owe, with pleasure & let God do the rest

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband (1 Cor 7:3)~~ Marriage does not give the man the right of being a bully, or a brute, one who demands his rights as the head of the house with never a “Thank you.” Nor does it give the wife the right to spend a lifetime trying to straighten out her husband, and to mold him into the image of her own idealism. The foundation for the family and for the home is the husband’s love, for without his mental attitude of love, he can expect no response from his wife. When a man invests nothing in his marriage, he will receive nothing in return. The woman only becomes complex when she has nothing to respond to. Some men want their wife to assume what seems to be more of the role of a mother to them, to give catering and attention to them as a mother would. So, instead of the man giving, he demands this provision. A woman wants to look with respect toward her husband. She does not want to look at him as just another child to rear and handle. This type of a man has not grown up and thinks only of what he can get, not what he can give. Part of the husband’s obligation and his responsibility as a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ is to cover and to please his wife and to MAKE his marriage a success. A husband must so love his wife, as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself for it. The basis is giving. Yes, GIVING is of the utmost importance in every facet of the marriage bond. And we can’t worry about the level of what the other person does in the relationship.  God didn’t say do these things if or as long as the other person does those things, He just said DO them and HE would handle the rest. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not (Gal 6:9); And so, after he had patiently endured, he obtained the promise (Heb 6:15). God will take care of it all in HIS due time…we just need to do what we are supposed to do. Regardless of the ‘stuff’ around us that is making us want to just want to quit. That’s DUE. Benevolence… You OWE that to your spouse, your marriage, your Family… And you made a vow to give it. It’s not a burden to give into your marriage, you should be pleased to do it! So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a CHEERFUL  giver (2 Cor 9:7) (It’s not just about money) Give what YOU’RE supposed to give in the marriage – do it with pleasure  – and have faith in Him for the rest…that’s all God wants you to do.  

How do you love your spouse? How do you love you?

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Eph 5:28-29)~~ The duty of husbands is to love their wives. The love of Christ to the church is an example, which is sincere, pure, and constant, notwithstanding her imperfect idiosyncracies. Of course there will be failures and defects on both sides of the marriage, in the present state of human nature, yet this does not alter the relation. In marriage it is ordained by God that the husband and wife are one… So much so that all things for or against one in the marriage are the same toward both; so much so that even for either party within to undermine that is to bring harm to oneself. All the benefits and duties of marriage are included in unity and love. We love because Christ first loved us and when we know that love, we can give that love. So if you want to love your spouse better, get to know the love in Christ in your own life. And while we adore and rejoice in the unwavering love of Christ, let husbands …and wives learn by this example, their duties of love to each other.

Why do you Praise the Lord?

I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth. My soul shall make its boast in the Lord; The humble shall hear of it and be glad. Oh, magnify the Lord with me, And let us exalt His name together. (Ps 34:1-3)~~ Why praise the Lord? We could just say “Why Not?” But seriously… what is the big thing about praise? When we bring our sacrifices of praise, thanksgiving and joy to God, we are telling Him that we wish to die to our own desires and knowledge, and we desire to love and trust Him completely. It is in the holy atmosphere of praise and worship that healing, miracles and transformation of the soul begin to manifest, and God’s glory starts cleansing and changing our carnal nature into the nature and character of Christ. We are literally praying with our heart, soul and spirit. The result is always an impartation of God’s infinite blessings, wisdom, knowledge and understanding. When you truly understand this truth you will begin to regain and restore all that Satan has stolen from you. Demons cannot resist the praise of the children of God. When you feel discouraged, and a spirit of confusion tries to invade your thinking, if you begin to offer a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving you will find that the peace of God will cover you as a shield of protection and the angel of the Lord will encamp all around you and deliver you (Ps 34:7). SO – – Let everything that has breath… praise the Lord!